How To Make New Friends When You Hate Meeting New People

Introverts find making new friends hard to do. This is because you either hate meeting new people or find it awkward to start that momentum. So, if you want to meet and make new friends but need to learn how to do it, I’ll give you some tips about it.

Making new friends doesn’t have to be complicated. You can start by identifying the type of person or people you want to be friends with. Finding a common interest, going to places where you can find people who share the same interests. Also, joining a club or organization and trying an online app to connect to new people.

All these could sound intimidating for introverts. But if you want to make new friends, you need to have a mindset that you’re the only one who can manifest the type of friend you like.

Likewise, you must see the beauty of making and having new friends. And once you see it, you’ll surely enjoy building relationships more than being alone. Sometimes, it is better to leave your comfort zone, even for a bit.

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Things you can do if you want to make new friends

Here are the ways you can set yourself to make new friends. Most of this is about preparation and selecting the right expectations.

Identify the kind of person you want to be friends with.

If you want to make new friends, the first step is to identify what kind of person you’d like to be friends with. It’s like manifesting the right friend in your life!

You might think that this is impossible. How could you know what kind of person you want as a friend when you don’t even have any yet?

But it’s actually pretty easy. You just need to ask yourself some questions!

  • What type of friend do you want to be?
  • What qualities do you value in your friends?
  • Do you want someone who’s very social?
  • Someone who’s excellent at relationship-building?
  • Someone who’s funny?
  • Someone who has good manners?

Once you figure out what kind of person you’d like to be friends with, it’ll help narrow down your options when meeting new people and expanding your circle!

Find a common interest.

Sometimes, it’s not enough to just be friends. You actually have to have something in common with them!

You might think that this means you have to be exactly like them, but it doesn’t. You just need a shared interest that allows for conversation and connection.

  • Maybe you both love drinking coffee
  • Perhaps you both like taking selfies with cats
  • Maybe one of you is into sports
  • Maybe you both love the arts.

Whatever it is, find something that allows for a commonality between you two, and then make it happen!

Once you’ve found your common interest, it’s time to take action and talk about it! Feel free to strike up a conversation about whatever it is that interests both of you most. 

Go to places where you’ll find people who share your interests.

There’s a reason why people seem to be more open and talkative when they’re hanging out with people who share their interests. It’s because they know that these people will understand them and appreciate what they have to say. So if you’re looking for new friends, try going to places where there are likely other people with similar hobbies or interests as you do!

For example:

  • If you enjoy playing soccer, go to a game and chat with the other fans. You’ll be able to bond over your shared interest and get to know each other better!
  • You can go to a concert, a museum, or any other event you enjoy.

Join a club you’re interested in.

You can find clubs and groups related to your interests, hobbies, goals, or just about anything else.

Clubs are great because they allow you to meet people who share common interests with you that aren’t necessarily related to your work or school schedule. 

This means that you don’t have to feel like you’re sacrificing your fun time by making new friends. Instead, you can just say “no” when other people ask if you want to go out with them because you already have plans!

There are so many clubs out there, and they can be an excellent way to meet people with similar interests. It’s easy to find a club that interests you and gets involved.

Here are some examples of clubs that might interest you.

  • A club for people who love cats
  • A book club
  • A hiking group
  • A knitting club
  • A music club
  • An editorial organization

You can be an active member of the club. You just attend a few meetings and see if it’s something you’d like to continue with. If so, consider becoming more involved!

Try an online dating app geared toward finding friends instead of relationships.

When you’re ready to make new friends, try an online dating app geared toward finding friends instead of relationships.

The main thing you’ll want to do here is get an overview of what kind of person you’re looking for. You can use any app if you just want someone cool to hang out with and don’t need anything more than that. 

There are plenty out there! 

But for those who are more interested in making a deeper connection, some apps specialize in helping people find friends.

If you’re going down this route, it helps to know what kind of person would be a good fit for you. Think about what sorts of things interest them and what they might be looking for: 

  • Are they outgoing? 
  • Do they have similar interests? 
  • Are they introverts? 
  • Are their values similar to yours? 
  • Do they have kids? 

These are all important questions because they will help you determine whether this friendship will last over time.

Finding someone who meets all your requirements may take a while, but once you do, it’ll be worth all the effort!

Make new friends without pressure!

If you still need to get ready to go out and initiate conversations to make new friends, there are ways you can do it. As we said, you can make new friends online without personally meeting people. 

However, you must also practice interacting with other people to make the most out of it. For example, joining a club, you’re interested in is worth trying; join the Successful Introverts’ Club on Facebook. You’ll always be interested in the topic because it’s your interest, plus you’ll have the chance to meet people with your interests.

Nowadays, there are different ways to make new friends without compromising your introverted personality. But once you’re ready to step up the game, going out of your shell is beneficial!

We encourage you to go out of your box slowly to find interesting people and more opportunities that could give you a better proposition in life!

Garo Kotchounian

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